What? Your Boss made a negative remark at you today? We often face a lot of negativity in the work sphere so good news is, join the club. At times, it is too difficult to get out of it's grasp, it is that consuming. So the question is What Do You Do? How do you overcome the wave of negative energy? Do you jump over it and simply let it pass or does it drown you?
I am not a strong person and I am not ashamed of it. Sometimes it is perfectly okay to not be strong because we are human. If there is -ve energy I do tend to get eaten by it, at the same time pushing hard to resist but is it really that easy? What would you do if your superior throws back words at you when they are themselves suffering from lack of self confidence/self esteem? What if the people sitting near your cubicle are grumpy all the time or when your Client never seems to agree to what you say, never ever appreciates your effort and even worse you actually have to see his face every single day? Ideally you wouldn't feel like continuing..but you NEED this job. So you bite hard and go on.
At times when you feel no longer accepted by your peers just because you have had an earlier raise this year, working relations get tougher. Sometimes, one person alone can spread the negative energy like a wild fire and no one takes a stand and says 'Don't worry, all is well'.
Have you never been into a family when personal relations get affected due to the same negativity? I have come across people who were made to believe that they were NOT good enough when they were a child and they have grown up with the same feeling all along. The result- lack of confidence, enviousness of others, getting into shells of the unknown fear and above all feeling alone in the dark. Bottom line is we all know this and must pass this test.
Get rid of it will you? Why not start looking into the positive aspects when everything starts going wrong. For eg. when you are having a hard time in your work place, maybe it's time for you to move out..do something better. So do we always get a SIGN when something -ve happens? Not always..it is truly unfortunate when things keep happening in the other way and you have no control over it. But there are still a couple of elements one can improvise on such as building up your self confidence. Stop at the red sign and tell yourself I CAN and in MJ's famous words 'just beat it'. Try not to get influenced easily. Sometimes when circumstances rip you off your patience, tolerance and all other noble virtues, moments when you want to shout out loud and change things badly, remember the Serenity prayer (someone I respect shared this with me and trust me at times it helps) -
"God, grant us the...
